How to Deal with Negative People Who’re Suffering from Psychological Trauma

I still remember when I was in school, I was an insecure person. Always ready to criticize me for not getting good marks, for not being an extrovert, and for not.

I knew I could be a better person, but something was stopping me.

Until I realized it was not me; it was my gathering, which was an obstacle to my growth. No, I do not blame them, but their negative comment scares me to death.

According to research, ‘people tend to focus more on the negative as they try to make sense of the world’.

And the same happened to me. I was so focused on their negative comments that I forgot about my potential. But when I got to the point, I trained my mind to deal with them consciously.

The following tips can help you to deal with negative people in your life.

Avoid Argument

You may have heard: ‘’Never wrestle with a pig. You’ll both get dirty, and the pig likes it.’’

The same goes with the negative person; if you argue with them, they’ll find another way to pull you down. The discussion will just bounce with more negativity. You can share your opinions with them, and if the person isn’t ready to step back, don’t go further.

Take a Break

When you constantly indulge in negative conversations, it takes a toll on your mental health. To relive this feeling, you need a break to process your emotions.

It’s crucial to clear negative thoughts from your head and remove the toxicity from the inside. Even though you’re connected to your phone 24/7, it’s not compulsory to attend the call and reply at the moment.

When you’re upset and irritated, take some to clear your thoughts. Give some space to yourself to be charged up with positivity again. And deal with the situation calmly and wisely.

Be Honest

There’s a chance that negative people don’t realize their behaviour. Especially if no one has ever told them, talk to them politely regarding the issue. It’s worth a try, but remember that certain honest truths backfire.

Also, you can act accordingly when the person is dealing with some problematic issues to keep things at peace. Think about their past behaviour and acknowledge what you know about them. And conclude the way to solve their puzzle mystery.

Show Affection Towards Them

Let them fully show their viewpoint about the problem. Ask questions: why do they feel judged? What do they want from life?

Listening to them can help you understand what’s inside them. And it will automatically conclude the solution. It may be enough to make someone feel like they have a choice of words. Showing kindness to others may go a very long way.

Help Works Wonders

Some people don’t ask for help and try to do everything alone. And they end up becoming exhausted. That’s why their comments come across as a complaint.

So, ask them: ‘’Do you need help’’? Or ‘’are you okay’’? Can reduce their burden and cultivate a positive seed in them.

Bring creative topics

If you usually deal with negative people, you may know they always find negative points in anything.

For instance: One of my schoolmates constantly interfered in every group discussion. It doesn’t matter if it’s relevant to her, but she horns in on every topic. And when someone tries to calm her, the conversation becomes an argument.

So, Whenever she’s around, we only talk about simple things like movies. Most topics trigger negative people, so come up with exciting new topics that make everyone happy.

Don’t Take Things Personally

Ignoring their rude comments is a great way to deal with a negative person. It’s not about you; They just throw out their inner frustration.

And you can’t help them, but if they talk positively, reply enthusiastically.

When they perceive a positive attitude towards them, he/she will try to be more positive.

Appreciate their Good Qualities

Negative people aren’t only negative from the outside; they also negatively criticize themselves.

Imagine how they could enjoy their company if you do not feel good in their presence.

Recognize their good qualities and praise them. At first, they wouldn’t believe you or might reject your compliment. But on the inside, they’ll be happy and positive about themselves.

This way, you can reduce their rooted negativity; It will work wonders in the long run.

Never Hang Out Alone

Hanging out alone with them can drain your energy. You’ll be the easy attack for them. However, when more than one hangs out, it’s easy to handle the burden.

It would be easy to shift their negative aspects into positive ones without feeling burnout.

Be Responsible for Your Perception

You’re responsible for your own perception. Whether the person is negative or positive, you judge them. And if you perceive them as a negative person, it’s your view of reflection.

Learn to appreciate the good things in a person rather than brag about their negativity. It will cultivate positivity in you and help you become more disciplined.

Set Your Boundaries

If none of the techniques works, avoid them. If it’s your family member, and you can’t cut them off, limit your contact with them. It’s not healthy to stay under a negative influence.

Your time and energy should be used in something worthwhile; It’s only possible when you’ve positivity. Otherwise, it’d exhaust you.

Conclusion

Staying with a negative person can ruin your mood easily. You’ve to train your mind not to take influence from them. Instead, you should spread positivity around them.

They aren’t born negative, but they’ve some resentment inside them. Let them realize their situation by planting positivity in them.

You can’t change the unhappy person; A little help can make things easier for them.